a good thing in your life is able to complete it successfully.

Let's get right to what I have for you in this article which is "The Man of your dreams, the man after God's heart”. When it comes to choosing a mate, a husband, the one you will spend the rest of your life with, many women as well as men are too focused on the wrong attributes that should not be the base of choice making. We often hear the phrase "THE MAN OF MY DREAMS" which may equal; dark or light complexioned, tall with six pack, handsome, emotional i.e. can cry in your presence without shame, dresses good, good job, no baby mama drama, not a mama's boy, a real gentleman, God fearing.... the list goes on and on.

 Very few if any consult God in delicate matters like this, it may be due to ignorance or self sufficiency. Ignorant in the sense that God, who is all knowing, knows that man more than you, regardless of how the man may carry himself around you to make good impression. He may be acting in a staged setting just to get you to commit to him in marriage and then you see the real man. A man that will turn you into a slave and a punching bag, with conditional love (love when everything is good both physically, emotionally, financially etc), no integrity. As human beings the Bible says that our hearts are desperately wicked. You will be surprised at what we are capable of doing when we feel trapped, but with God we are more than over comers. 

In a staged setting you cannot tell a wife beater from child molester or a chronic cheat from lazy man. Because we entered the union with the wrong focus and attitude, we end up with regrets. The Bible says “My people perish or are destroyed for lack of knowledge” knowledge of whom or what? When you are sure that you ready to be married to a man, we should strive to have the knowledge of God and his ways not the carnal knowledge of the man we seek. Knowing and understanding God and His thoughts concerning you helps you to discern a man of your dreams or a man after God’s heart, separating LUST from LOVE. Remember, marriage is about 2 people with different mind set, background, upbringing, experience, culture etc. coming together to become one, as in WHOLE! Who can make sure that arrangement work to the T, without lingering and unnecessary issues? Only God! The man is not perfect, you are not perfect but God is perfect and He knows how to mix and match to perfection. The bible says “iron sharpens iron”, which means you are to complement each other and not compete with each other, bear each other’s burden not to put it on one of you.